Hi. I'm Heidi. I'm glad you're here. Let's end the cycle of self-sabotage for good.
I believe we have everything we need within us to manifest our personal destiny and be all we were created to be! But first, we must turn our fear based brains into freedom based brains.
I believe we’re born with everything we needed to become who we were created to be.
Our worth.
Our intuition.
Our identity.
Our purpose.
Our capacity to love and be loved.
Our ability to create.
I think we’re born to answer the great questions…
“Who am I?” And “Why am I here?”
But for many of us, who had to survive a dysfunctional family system, we ask one very different question: “Who do I need to be to be ok?”
Over time, fear, trauma, conditioning, and unconscious survival patterns disconnected us from our True Selves.
I believe manifesting your personal destiny requires confronting what I call “the fear based brain” so we can identify and heal our survival patterns. And then, from a higher consciousness, we can let them go.
I think we have everything we need within us to become all we were born to be, but for a survivor, a fear based brain will make us self sabotage.
I know we can end that cycle of self sabotage and live our dreams, but we need to heal our fear based brains. Then, we are truly free to create and live a life we truly love,
What is a Fear Based Brain? Heidi Rain’s Crazy 8 Patterns
In my Fear based brain model, there are 8 different patterns that emerge. Have a read and see if any resonate with you. These are survival strategies to keep us safe. They’re how we learned to function in dysfunction.
Pleasing
The Pleaser learned early on that keeping everyone else happy was the safest way to survive. Their life is driven by one question: “How do I keep everyone happy?” They say yes when they want to say no, avoid conflict, and slowly lose themselves trying to earn love that was never meant to be earned.
Clinging
The Clinger is always looking for someone to make them feel safe. Their question is, “Will you leave me?” They crave reassurance, fear being alone, and often confuse attachment with love because deep down they’re afraid they’ll be abandoned.
Fixing
The Fixer believes it’s their job to hold everyone else’s world together. Their question is, “How do I help?” They rescue, give, sacrifice, and over function, hoping that if everyone else is okay, they’ll finally be okay too.
Perfecting
The Perfectionist is always trying to get it right. Their question is, “How can I be good enough?” They work harder, achieve more, and chase impossible standards because they secretly believe that if they’re perfect, they’ll finally feel worthy.
Controlling
The Controller has one goal: stay safe. Their question is, “How do I stay in control?” They try to manage people, conversations, and outcomes because uncertainty feels dangerous. Underneath all that control is someone who never really felt safe.
Withholding
The Withholder learned that opening their heart could get them hurt. Their question is, “Is it safe to trust you?” Instead of reaching out, they pull back. They protect themselves with distance, independence, and emotional walls, even when what they really want is connection.
Victimizing
The Victim feels like life is always happening to them. Their question is, “Why does this always happen to me?” They can feel stuck, defeated, or powerless, not because they’re weak, but because they’ve forgotten they have choices.
Pretending
The Pretender became whoever they thought they needed to be to fit in. Their question is, “Who do I need to be?” They wear masks, play roles, and perform for approval while hiding the person they’ve always been underneath it all.
The truth is, none of these patterns are your personality. They’re survival strategies. They were created by a fear-based brain that learned one thing above all else: “I have to stay safe.” Healing begins the moment you no longer ask, “Who do I need to be?” and start asking, “Who was I created to be?”
Inside of my Self Study Course, we heal these patterns at the root. I help you move from a fear based brain to a freedom based brain.
How I Help You Find and Love Your True Self...
What is true self-love?
Most people think self-love is bubble baths, vacations, or treating yourself.
I don’t.
I think true self-love is the end of self sabotage and self sacrifice.
One of the clearest signs that you’re disconnected from your true self is the presence of these five patterns:
• Self-betrayal — saying yes when your heart is screaming no.
• Self-rejection — believing you’re fundamentally flawed, broken, or not enough.
• Self-abandonment — leaving yourself behind to rescue, please, or prioritize everyone else.
• Self-neglect — ignoring your own needs, emotions, health, and well-being.
• Self-abuse — repeating thoughts, behaviors, or relationships that you already know are harming you.
Self sacrifice- You believe love is putting everyone else first.
True self-love isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about coming home to who you’ve always been beneath the fear, trauma, and survival patterns.
When you stop betraying yourself…
When you stop rejecting yourself…
When you stop abandoning yourself…
When you stop neglecting yourself…
When you stop abusing yourself…
When you stop self sacrificing…
…you begin to experience freedom.
Because true self-love isn’t something you do.
It’s how you relate to yourself.
And when you change that relationship, you begin to become the love you’ve been searching for.
When we work together, we find and free your authentic self. Then, you learn to adore yourself at your core. And from that place, magic happens. Your life becomes a reflection of your heart’s desire, rather than obligation and self sacrifice.
I’ll help you identify your subconscious patterns and break the cycle for good.
About The Course I Made To Help You...
Heidi Rain invented LYFE SCHOOL (Love Yourself First Empowerment) to heal the fear based brain.
Inside, you’ll learn about the Fear Based Brain Crazy 8s™—ego structures formed in response to trauma, unmet needs, and attachment wounds. These aren’t your true self. They’re roles you had to play when it wasn’t safe to be authentic.
Each pattern is a coping mechanism. A mask. A spell you cast to keep love close or pain away.
And each one holds a higher consciousness inside it—waiting to be remembered.
If you find yourself still asking “Who am I and Why am I Here?” you’ll answer those questions easily once you heal.
You’ll learn to forgive with Heidi Rain’s Rapid Detachment Method.
You’ll leave this course with a brand new set of beliefs about who you are and what your True potential is.
Get the Course and start healing today!
Module 1: Understanding Codependency
Learn where your unique codependency patterning originated.
Revisit your most significant relationships to identify hidden toxic relationship patterns.
Discover the impact of past relationship drama on current relationship trauma.
Module 2: Heidi Rain’s Attachment Personality Patterns
Learn about Heidi Rain’s 8 different Attachment Personality Patterns that act as barriers to love and success.
Identify your primary and secondary patterns and learn the impact of that patterning on your relationships.
Uncover the patterns of those you love, empowering you to make educated decisions about your relationships.
Learn how to interrupt and eradicate unhealthy patterns, stopping dysfunction in it’s tracks.
Module 3: Heidi Rain’s Insanacycle Model
Discover your core beliefs about yourself, life and others that drive your ever day behavior.
Learn about the unique way you behave as a direct result of those beliefs.
Identify your core triggers and how to avoid them in the future.
Identify your unique negative coping strategies and develop alternative behavior patterns.
Module 4: Learn to live in the now
Learn how to effectively feel your feelings in the present moment without getting triggered by others.
Identify the reality of your current relationships
Envision the relationship future you long to create and use it as your North Star GPS.
Module 5: Heid Rain’s Rapid Detachment Method
Participate in Heidi’s revolutionary 7 step process to free yourself from the pain of past wrong doings.
Let go from past narratives that continue to cause resentment.
Develop a crystal clear action plan for radical self-healing moving forward.
Module 6: Learn how to rebuild trust, open to others and receive
Cultivate trust in your own internal guidance system.
Learn the difference between divinely guided intuition and a fear response.
Understand and apply one of the most important lessons of the universe to use as a tool to live through change.
Create mutually beneficial, trust worthy relationships where you no longer feel fooled by others.
Module 7: Identify and honor your truest desires
Uncover your wants and needs and shift the focus from others to self.
Learn what your true desires are
Understand exactly what it take to get those needs met consistently, without drama.
Learn how to stand firm and be unwavering in your new standards for self.
Module 8: Embody your True Identity
Create a Self Identity consistent with your new understanding of Self.
Learn to behave in accordance with this new empowered identity.
Release old identities that no longer serve your newly empowered self concept.
Integrate and own aspects of Self that have been repressed out of fear.
Module 9: Speak your truth, set and hold boundaries
Set new standards according to your North Star commitment to happiness and health.
Learn the exact boundary formula to use with others.
Get crucial feedback from Heidi regarding what to say and how to say it to eradicate drama and future problems.
Learn exactly what to do when your boundaries are crossed.
Module 10: Operate from a place of being enough
Uncover how and where a lack mentality shows up for you.
Know what to do so that you can cultivate an abundance mindset.
Eradicate scarcity based thinking
Know what it feels like to finally be enough.
Module 11: Incorporating the LYFE Self Love System into your daily life
Learn how to utilize the 7 Vows into daily living.
Live from an empowered place in all of your relationships.
Cultivate the ability to stand in your power in all aspects of your life.
Attract the loving, mutually beneficial relationships you deserve.
Module 12: Keys to lasting success
Learn about the 5 levels of success.
understand what it takes to assimilate your new understanding.
Know what it takes to continue on the Self Love Path.
Celebrate your success and acknowledgement of life changing shifts as a result of living the program.
Buy The Love Yourself First Empowerment Course NOW!
Inside of Heidi Rain’s Course Called LYFE School, you’ll learn to love yourself first! She’ll guide you through each fear based pattern and one pattern at a time, you’ll heal at the root. And then, you’ll make decisions from a freedom based brain! Start your healing journey with this self study course, download the journal that comes with it and dig in to YOU.
Do You Need or Want Private Support?
If you’re looking to exit or recover from a toxic relationship, start with a strategic consultation. You’ll leave this zoom session with answers and a plan.
I’ll listen to your life story and help you get a clear path forward.
If we decide to work together following your consultation, your fee will be applied to a custom built coaching package for you.
Let’s get on a zoom call and see how you can begin your healing journey now!
Once you purchase your initial session, you’ll be guided to schedule your session.
I can’t wait to meet you.