If you’ve ever tried to get someone else to change their wicked ways, you’ll appreciate today’s video.

I’m going to guess that you’re no stranger to ultimatums.

Boundaries are harder-at first that is.

Once you get used to them, you wonder how you ever functioned without them especially if you have a relationship that causes you anxiety, resentment, confusion or pain.

This week’s video is for you.

If you want more help, schedule your complimentary consultation or sign up for the latest free master class on the homepage.

Being in a relationship that causes you anxiety, resentment, confusion, or pain is maddening. You just want to know how to fix things or get someone to change.

One of the master keys to changing your relationships is learning to teach people how to treat you. Said another way, we’re talking about BOUNDARIES.

Most people don’t set boundaries. Most people give ultimatums or develop walls.

Don’t let that be you.

Today, we discuss healthy boundaries and the surprising ingredients to be successful.

As always, if you want more support, send me a message through this site or register for our next free master class.

Enjoy the viideo!

Heidi

Here’s the truth. You can have everything else. But if you have a relationship that’s causing you anxiety, resentment, confusion or pain, then you’ll ask yourself, “What’s the point?”

I ‘m here to help you get the clarity you need to take your power back and have the relationships you deserve.

I do that by helping you root down in your value, find and speak your truth and never settle again.

Do you know the #1 reason most people stay in an unhealthy, dysfunctional or toxic relationship?

They don’t know they’re in one. They simply think of it as “complicated”.

The problem with that is you can’t fix what you don’t see.

Below are 8 types of toxic people. Take a look to see if you have a relationship with someone who fits one of these patterns.

Or just skip to the video below!

1. The covert hater. This is someone who competes with you. They can never truly be happy for you and find a way to minimize you. They are jealous and insecure and have difficulty celebrating your success. The will often find ways to be passive aggressive. You leave their presence, scratching your head, wondering if they like you.
2. The Controller. This person attempts to convince you how to think, feel or behave. They are judgmental. When you’re with them, you feel like you need to be who they expect you to be and as though you cannot be fully yourself.
3. The Taker. This person depletes you. They are needy and violate your boundaries. When you’re with them, you feel drained. It’s a one sided relationship. You give, they take.
4. The Withholder. You wonder how this person feels about you. They are inconsistent. They withhold affection, attention time, approval and intimacy. They do not share their feelings, thoughts or ideas with you. You feel as though they have walls and you attempt to break them down.
5. The Gamer. This person plays games with you. You feel manipulated. You feel as though you are winning or losing when you engage with them.
6. The Liar. You do not get the truth from this person. They lie about most things, big and little. You have no trust.
7. The Enabler. You feel lost without this person. They aim to have you totally dependent on them. You have lost your sense of independence.
8. The Flaker. They go MIA. They abandon, ghost, or otherwise reject you.

Of course, there are so many more toxic and dysfunctional relationship patterns, and in the work I do with my clients and students, we uncover and discuss them.

But for now if you recognize any of these patters, the next step is to register for my free master class where I’ll be teaching what to do about it.

You can sign up to learn:

• How to recognize unhealthy relationships.
• The exact steps to take to fix these dysfunctional patterns.
• How to get off the fence about your relationships
• How to alleviate feelings of anxiety, guilt, and resentment.
• How to fix your relationships with my 3 Master Steps

Join now to secure your spot! You can sign up oon the home or about page.

Love yourself!

Heidi

The truth is, most people stay in an unhealthy, dysfunctional, or toxic relationship becasue they don’t know they’re in one.

But likely, if you’re here, you do! So, what’s next?

How do you detach from an unhealthy person?

This conversation is geared towards those who have complex attachments. 

If you are a mother with an addicted child or an adult child with a narcissitic paretn, this video will particularly help you.

However, if you’re in a situation that doesn’t incolve a family memeber, this video will also help you.

Mostly, detachment is hard becasue we make some common mistakes.

1. We don’t see the person clearly.

2.We don’t observe their behavior without internalizing it

3. We don’t know why we stay.

In the video, I cover all three of these mistakes.

As always, if you’re ready to get some more suport, feel free to reach out.

Love Yourself,

Heidi

You have the best intentions. You just want to know how to help someone be the best they can be.

Being a “fixer” in your relationships manifests many ways.

• It can be wanting someone to realize their full potential.
• It can be trying to rescue someone from the pain of their own depression and anxiety.
• Or it can be trying to save someone from an addiction or unhealthy behavior.

Yes. Your intentions are pure! You simply want the best.

But the result is often far less inspiring.

Usually, people don’t take your advice, and that leaves you resentful, frustrated, angry and confused.

In this video. I expalin what to do about all of that. 

Please leave a comment and be sure to subscribe. And as always, if you want more help, send me a message.

I’ve spent my life perusing my freedom.

First, I broke free from an abusive and dysfunctional childhood where I was left with feelings of worthlessness and pain

Second, I broke free from the self inflicted self-destructive behavior of self medicating my pain away through binging on alcohol and food.

Then I broke free from the limiting beliefs that I needed others approval, love, and acceptance to be ME.

Since then, I’ve perused a life of happiness on my own terms.

And I’ve helped thousands of others find their own personal freedom.

But do you want to know the shocking truth?

Most people will never get free because they don’t know they’re in an abusive or dysfunctional relationship.

So, I decided to make a quick video explaining the cycle of abuse.

Please leave a comment if you can relate.

And as always, check out the services we offer to help you over at www.LoveCoachHeidi.com